I would like to talk to someone that I can really listen to and focus on our conversation.
So for me, talking to someone should involve at least 50% listening. What I mean is maybe 20% talking, 30% thinking and 50% listening.
Conversation is a skill that takes time and effort and in my busy life, I find many conversations involve someone talking to me, whilst my inner voice is distracting me with endless chatter. I may be thinking about what I want to say next, something I need to do at work, a problem I need to fix….. So I would like to slow down a bit, take more time to listen, to really listen, and to respond.
The people I talk with all the time, my wife and my kids. I want to really listen to them.
It’s a bank holiday weekend here. I have some rare unscheduled time.
My to do list for the weekend – make some time to listen! And a little time to talk as well.
You can try texting them more to start off or when you aren’t around them. Texting allows time for you to think and respond.